The Gift of Kindness
“It is not good that the man should be alone.” (Genesis 2:18) We were made for community. We were made to part of the body of the Christ. We were made for mutual upbuilding. God’s gift of kindness to moms is the community He has provided within the church.
It can be difficult to maneuver finding your mom-tribe. You may set out to find people whose mothering looks similar to yours. Feeding and diapering methods are some early divisive topics, followed by schooling choice and extracurriculars. You want to be surrounded by “your” people, but God’s gift of kindness is a loving community that may not look or act just like you. Will you choose to accept it?
God’s gift of kindness to moms is community within the body of Christ. We are one part of a whole and are God’s built in human support system. First Corinthians 12:24-26 explains, “But God has so composed the body… that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.” God designed humans to live in community with each other. Not only did He give us the blessing of community with Himself, but also He provided the church to be His hands and feet for each other. When we become moms, we enter a whole new world full of new experiences. We may not have a frame of reference for the situations motherhood throws us into and we may not have adequate past experiences from which to glean. We may feel like every decision we make is wrong or that we are drowning in the overwhelm. But God’s gift of kindness to moms is the community of the body of Christ. Meals can be made, advice can be shared, encouragement can be given to new moms from seasoned moms. Support and friendship can blossom over parenting triumphs or mishaps. We suffer together and we rejoice together, all while thanking the Lord for His perfect example of parenthood.
God’s gift of kindness to moms is community designed for mutual upbuilding. We all have different experiences and opinions we bring to the table, but these should not be seen as divisive but as opportunities to educate and encourage one another. Paul reminds us, “So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.” (Romans 14:19) Every person has a unique story, but every story within the church should reflect God’s grace and faithfulness to the believer. When our focus is on God then all our own expectations, perceptions, and preferences dissolve as we mutually encourage each other. We serve the same God and even though our experiences may not be similar, we can encourage one another through our mutual hope in the Lord. God uses different methods to meet with His people to display the same redemption story across generations and people groups. We can celebrate each other’s stories as they provide a fuller picture of God’s goodness and love towards mankind. God’s gift of kindness to moms is community designed for mutual upbuilding amongst differing experiences and opinions.
God’s gift of kindness to moms is community in bulk. Everywhere you look there are social groups for every face, form, and function. There is a particularly vast availability to find a mom group (or two or two hundred) to join. Social media is flooded with online communities for every imaginable topic (or anti-topic) that spans the globe, the nation, or the city. A quick google search will bring up local MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers), Stroller Strides, Mommy and Me play dates, and all other forms of mom-tribe group in the area. But seeing a list of groups in the area and knowing of their existence will not provide the community you need. You have to join the group or attend a meeting and take that first step towards making connections in order to build community. If you are anything like me, then this thought gives you panic attacks, stress sweats, and immobilizing anxiety. When I was a new mom I had two very difficult weeks when we moved to a new state. I did not know anyone and I was so intimidated to meet strangers. I began to sink into a depression and I knew that I needed to get out of the house for myself and my son. I began to attend a women’s Bible study at my church, I had a play date at the community pool with someone I met in a neighborhood facebook group, and I exchanged babysitting with another mom through a local facebook group. Not every interaction was profitable and friendships were not formed with each attempt, but slowly I began to build community and I discovered the truth in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!” With practice, I became more comfortable visiting mom groups and now (six years later) I get excited to visit new groups because I know how much I need community in this mom-life. Some groups I have visited just once and knew it was not what I needed in that season. Some groups have provided some of my closest friends, the kind that become more like family. By joining community, I had people to call on when I needed help in mothering or figuring out a recipe or changing a light bulb. By joining community, I had people with whom to celebrate triumphs and mourn the inevitable military move. Though difficult to take that first step, life is so much fuller when we can share it together. God’s gift of kindness to moms is community in bulk.
Have you experienced God’s gift of kindness? Have you found your mom-tribe in the body of Christ, with whom you can mutually upbuild, and have you explored the bulk opportunities to join new communities? Have you opened yourself up to be part of someone’s mom tribe? If not, then take that first step. Take a deep breath and post in that social media group, walk into that meeting, or say hello at the park. Allow God’s to gift you with community because He desires for you to have life and have it abundantly.